Discuss Together Have you ever been on the receiving end of a half-hearted apology or non-apology? How did you know it wasn’t real? How did it make you feel? What is the difference between that and a real apology? Read Psalm 51. What are some of the words and phrases that stand out to you about David’s response to his own failure? How does failure affect you? Does it crush you? Demotivate you? Drive you? Share with the group. Read 2 Corinthians 7:10. What is the difference between godly sorrow versus worldly sorrow? Have you experienced the kind of sorrow that led to freedom, change, and life? Share with the group. In Psalm 51:3, David says, “For I know my transgressions and my sin is always before me.” He admits his sin. Greg said, “Change cannot begin until blame-shifting ends.” Why is it so easy to fall into the trap of blame-shifting? Do you agree with what Greg said? Why? When you have failed, how did you think God thought about you in that moment? Has your view changed over time? Read Psalm 51:16-17. If God doesn’t delight in sacrifice, what does He delight in? What is God asking us to do when we fail? What have you learned about navigating failure in a way that doesn’t lead to shame? Is there an area of failure you are wrestling with right now? If you are comfortable, share with your group. NEXT STEPS When we fail, it’s easy to fall into a shame spiral. Consider learning more about the difference between guilt and shame by reading content by a researcher like Brené Brown or discussing with a counselor. And bring any guilt and shame you’re carrying right now to our loving heavenly Father, who is ready to meet you with love, mercy, and grace.